Saturday, April 4, 2009

No Such Thing As Third Sex

"Salot sa lipunan ang mga bakla"
That was how a friend of mine stated why he would never hire gay men (I'm talking about men here) to his Internet Solutions company. They watch gay porn. They are loud. They are maarte. They everything. Well, I can't blame him. That was his belief, I wish I wouldn't find out in 10 years that he would come out of his stinking closet and have a gay relationship of his own.

But really, out of all the gays that I have chatted with, only one never dared to get kinky in some way. Why is that? Why gays have to talk of fellatio, copulation, coitus, and other what-have-yous all the time? I'm just sharing an opinion, I guess.

I guess there will really be a stereotype against gay men. I was never comfortable being seated beside a homosexual be it in a jeep, in a bus, in an FX, a plane, a moviehouse (horror of horrors!), let alone engage in a conversation or spend a whole day with one.

Homophobia you think? Probably.

You fear what's not comforting to you, right? You fear about things you don't know yourself. It is the relative unexposure to the gay culture that is getting me. How many hook-ups can one gay have in a week? Or, how are they inside a men's CR. Or, if girls love to go as a group inside their CR, why wouldn't they?

Is it not just the preference, but a whole new different lifestyle, a whole new different gender?

I wish, I dunno. I dunno what I should be wishing for. I don't think it really is acceptance because they have long been there. I mean, you guys have long been there. Maybe deciding to be one means you decided to risk what the world would view you. I don't think equality will really come. There will always be prejudice to some degree.

All gay men, please chill.

10 Responses to “No Such Thing As Third Sex”

XP said...
April 4, 2009 at 8:56 PM

Well, I used to think about that as well. I just got tired looking for the "right" answer. I don't want to whack my brains off just to know something that is so fluid a concept. In my soul-searching, I've realized that it is not important what other people may think. I am gay, and proud of it. I'm not like those you've mentioned above. In the end, everything is a choice. And oh, I know someone who acts the same as your friend. Guess what, in the end that person has done a lot of things much worse than I have done in my entire life. I do belive in karma. :D

Jake said...
April 5, 2009 at 3:37 PM

Equality will never come? I believe otherwise, my friend.


Hussain Haroon.

Elton John.

Glen Murray.

Bertrand Delanoe.

These gay guys shaped world politics.

But as to the label as "third sex", I agree, there's no such thing. :)

PUSANG-gala said...
April 7, 2009 at 12:42 AM

life is achoice, gay-ness is a choice and how you behave in relation to your choices is also a matter of choice---not everybody is the same--that's what I can say....

klivengood said...
April 9, 2009 at 8:10 AM

Well, gays were just born with the wrong equipment...if i am "maarte", most of them are maarte too but there are simple and very feminine gays too "mahinhin" ika nga.

danyhael said...
April 10, 2009 at 2:30 PM

sexuality is a vast world. equality is still out of reach especially in our country governed by macho culture and stereotyping.

there is no standard for being a homosexual. same with heterosexuality. a straight man may act very feminine, wear make up, go shopping with his gf, but he's still sure with his sexuality.

a gay man may act like other straight guys, go out with his straight friends, boozes up, play basketball but still and always will be gay.

there are gazillion types of gays, straight, and bisexuals out there. if someone tries to push you into kinky talk, just tell them bluntly that you're not comfortable with it. it's ok to be blunt.

Leon Koh said...
April 11, 2009 at 7:36 PM

well everyone body is different and not to be treated as the same.. :)

Allen said...
April 12, 2009 at 7:14 PM

Sabi ng tito ko;

There really is NO third sex.

There is only a male and a female.

Yet with that two genders, are different choices and preferences.

Gays will always be considered male just as a lesbian is a female.

But with who and what they prefer to be with, is another issue. I guess we don't have to question that.

duks said...
April 14, 2009 at 12:50 AM

Basta sabi ni Elder Jeffrey R. Holland,
"Same-gender attraction is not a sin. It runs deep and understandable. It will become a sin if you give in to that struggle, which could perhaps a life-time struggle."

Hindi masyadong eksakto pero parang ganun. Hahaha.

Raft3r said...
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Raft3r said...
April 15, 2009 at 8:17 PM

i'm from an all boys school
immuned na ako sa ganyan
besides i like them kasi madalas crush nila ako

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