The Comfort Rooms

I swear I was trying to come up with a different article - until I saw a picture of this mother who I thought exuded an alpha female attitude. She annoys me a lot whenever I get to see her and the sweat marks on the lines of her multi-layered neck didn't help much either.

Alpha dogs (for me) can be classified into 2 categories, the ones that have it (the have's) and those who thought they did (have-nots) but actually didn't (like the mom I'm referring to). I'll focus on the former cos they're the real alphas.

Jinno Rufino (on the picture) would be a perfect example of an alpha male in a Filipino setting. He's pretty darn confident, knows how to carry himself well, he's got like Alpha written all over him. If you get what I'm trying to say, then yeah, we're on the same page.

So how do we Betas (or Gammas) deal with these people?

1. Assert to them that you're on equal footing. Good thing, I'm surrounded by family members who are alphas. Paternal grandmother's an alpha, two sisters are alphas, some guy and girl cousins are alphas, uncles and aunts also alphas. So I'm pretty much brought up in an environment full of people with strong personalities. It makes a (weaker) person like me to feel that they too are human and shouldn't be given special treatments. Although I assure you that alphas have a certain way to assert that you should treat them differently.

2. No matter what'll happen, don't make them notice that you're intimidated. Although it does help if you could be totally honest with what you really felt. Maturity level plays a big part here. If you had to tell the alpha that you're intimidated by them, at least tell it to them on a dignified and unshaken manner. Being obvious on your fright would only boost their ego.

3. Learn from their strong personalities. Think of it as a way for you to channel in their strong energies. The assertive aura they emanate will be very helpful in helping you on your day-to-day dealings with the rest of the world. Please don't think bully-ing is all about having an alpha dog personality as I do think they're different. Alpha dogs know their place in this world and are completely comfortable with everything about themselves. Those alpha characteristics are stuff that are worth-emulating.